Journey to Healing and Joy


For those of us who live in the United States, this is Thanksgiving week; a time set aside to say “Thank
you” for life’s blessings. A time to show our appreciation. But for those of you still reeling from betrayal
trauma, it marks the beginning of a difficult holiday season. When your heart is breaking, it can feel
impossible to spread the holiday cheer. It becomes more about simply trying to survive the season.

But what if I told you that thanksgiving—gratitude—could actually help your heart and mind heal?

That you don’t need to paste on a pretend smile to keep family members happy. Instead you can do it to help yourself heal. Might that make it easier to get through the holidays this year? And what if I told you there’s scientific proof? Would you be curious?

I hope you answered “yes” to that last question, so you’re willing to read on. And that you’re at least
mildly curious to hear what I’m talking about, because I’m for sure eager to share this new-to-me
discovery with you.

Recently, I began researching how to help highly traumatized clients heal from panic attacks and
anxiety. I needed more and better tools to help them take back their power and their lives. And as I
searched online, I made an amazing discovery. I found a nonprofit, scientific organization called
HeartMath™, and I want to help you discover it, too. Their work is based on 29 years of “…scientific
research conducted at the HeartMath Institute on the psychophysiology of stress, emotions, and
the interactions between the heart and brain….” “The HeartMath system empowers people to self-regulate their emotions and behaviors to reduce stress….”[1]

“Self-regulate?” We all know how hard that skill is to find and use, especially around triggers and during
difficult times like the holidays. But I invite you to take three minutes and watch this video. It explains
the science and value we can gain from a simple, free, easy-to-do exercise that can give us something to smile about this holiday season, if nothing else can do that for us:

With your healing at heart,



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If domestic violence were a wheel, the hub in the middle would be labeled Power & Control. Learning to listen for power and control issues, whether they are in your marriage or that of another woman or child, will help you gain the sensitivity necessary to identify women who are living with a man who is controlling, and possibly unsafe. This is an important topic for partners of sex addicts, because quite often, we have to be brave and strong, confront sexual betrayal, and ask for change, which can produce anger. And anger, in the hands of someone with power and control issues, can be a dangerous thing.

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Read more: Power and Control: Learning to Identify Subtle Forms of Domestic Abuse


The search for relief from anxiety and other issues stemming from betrayal trauma is causing some women to look to CDB oil for a solution. But did you know you have your very own “endocannabinoid system” inside your body, and it doesn’t require paying big bucks for CBD oil to use it to your favor? A recent study reveals scientific evidence that some common, easy-to-do activities activate that system and can be used proactively to counter anxiety and other disorders' impact on your body.

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Read more: CBD Oil for Betrayal Trauma Anxiety?: How to Help Your Body Create Its Own Endocannabinoids...


If you haven’t bumped into him yet, I want to introduce you to world-renowned psychiatrist and neurologist, Dr. Daniel Amen. You can find him on PBS, Ted Talks, YouTube, and elsewhere, simply by “Googling” him.

I first found Dr. Amen in the early 2000’s.

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Read more: Healing Trauma, PTSD, Anxiety & Sleeplessness with Medical Hypnosis