Marsha Means

Have you struggled in your effort to use healthy ­­­­boundaries? They are so important, but so hard to learn. Without them, you will likely never heal. Nor will your marriage.

We work to empower the women in our support groups with boundaries. And now we’re working on a boundaries book. But we need your help. Would you help us do boundaries research by filling out our anonymous Boundaries Survey at the link below? You can use it to anonymously let us know which boundaries you've tried, what has worked, and what hasn’t.

Read more: Free Video On Boundaries For Partners of Sex Addicts

Every woman who's lived through the shattering trauma of discovering the man she loves is a sexual addict knows she can't possibly heal with only three months of support and work. While three months can really help, nearly all of us identify specific areas where we need more understanding, growth, and support. And every addict knows this will be a lifelong journey of learning how to break free by using new tools, healing old wounds, and leaning on the support of brothers on the same journey. It's for these reasons we are happy to announce we now offer a menu of options for both women and men. We encourage you to look at what's available to you so you can sink your roots deeply enough to be grounded in your healing and recovery.

Read more: Announcing Our One-Year Support Group Curriculum to Help You Heal & Grow

Loving a man who struggles with sex addiction often leaves us isolated with the daily challenges, triggers, and ongoing growth required to thrive, even if we are years into this journey. We truly need each other to make it. Even when we're blessed to have a local support group, life's daily ups and downs call for a ready, steady, source of encouragement. And for those of us who simply can't find local support, the sense of aloneness shrouds our world in overwhelming isolation. We've spent several months building our new, interactive online community, A Circle of Sisters, a place where you could come 24/7 and find strength, hope, help, and encouragement, and be guaranteed privacy.

Read more: A Circle of Sisters: From Our Hearts to Yours

You are not alone.

We invite you to step away from the isolation and aloneness sex addiction creates in your life by joining in our online community. Whether or not you have the financial resources for fee-based support, our online community awaits you for free. By joining and participating in our forum you will be reaching out and connecting with other women who understand because they are in a similar place. You can also connect by reading the many stories other women have posted here. And you can begin to let your heartache out by sharing yours with us. You are not alone. Break the bonds of isolation. Reach out and connect.

A Circle of Sisters online community is a place where you can connect with other women who will embrace you with respect, compassion, and an open heart because we have all been where you are right now. All of us are or have been in a serious relationship with a sex addict. A Circle of Sisters is a place where you can freely ask questions, tell your story, and share what's in your heart in complete safety knowing it will only be read by other women on this journey.

Inside A Circle of Sisters, you can talk freely about any issues you are facing without fear. Even the really scary stuff that comes when you discover your husband or partner is a sex addict. We have special areas of the community where you can discuss sexual diseases, finances, staying or leaving, and personal safety. We even have places to discuss same-sex attraction, molestation, and the problems that you face if your husband has been incarcerated. No matter how bad it is, here in A Circle of Sisters you can find someone who has been there before you and will help guide you out without shame or judgment.

You are safe here.

A Circle of Sisters can only be accessed by signed in Online Community Members with a current subscription. Use this special place confident that what you share can only be seen by other community members. We hold sacred your need for safety and privacy and work hard to maintain it. Please let us know if you ever suspect a community violation so we can act swiftly. And you can relax knowing we never share our data base with anyone.

Our Gift to You.

Every woman who registers with our website automatically receives a free, introductory month, regardless of the length of subscription you choose. Better still, every woman who joins one of our telephone support groups receives a free membership for the duration of that support group, generally 12 weeks. This enables you and the other group participants to, without additional cost, share photos, victories, heartaches, prayer requests, and anything else you want to share knowing that only you and the other three group members and your group facilitator will ever see what you post. And best of all, when your telephone support group comes to an end, for a small monthly fee, all of you can remain connected long after your telephone support group has ended. That way you never have to lose track of the very special sisters with whom you share your journey to healing and joy!

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I started the new year back home in Mexico, and as always, I find myself in a world of color and contrasts among a people who know how to make-do—another way of saying they accept that it is what it is. If life is hard, they deal with it. Just yesterday as I pulled into a grocery store parking lot a young man with window washing liquid in one hand, soft cloth in the other stood waiting, hoping for customers. Like many here, he is doing is best to find a way to work, even if he can't find a job. And even if washing someone's car windows only earns him 10 pesos.

“Senor,” I called, as I stepped out of my car. Quickly and eagerly he came, a broad smile spreading across his face. The conversation that followed, interestingly in perfect English, told me this young man was really making do. Turns out he—Jesus is his name—was born in Mexico but his mother moved to the United States when he was very small. He grew up in Arizona and Colorado. However, when the immigration laws tightened in Arizona a few months ago, he left a good job and the woman he loves, and returned to the country of his birth rather than run into trouble because he was in the United States without papers. Jesus is making-do; he's accepting that it is what it is, even though life has turned his plans inside out.

Read more: When Life Turns Our Plans Inside Out